YES! This *exactly.* That is a beautiful sentiment, Tim. I agree with you; I think a lot of people are so wounded that they believe that love is about power and winning. They seem to think that's how you keep a partner: whether by controlling them, by "proving" some sort of superiority (vis-a-vis the "winning" — presumably in an attempt to impress, so that they are admired), or some combination of both. But you're exactly right: real, healthy love doesn't have a place for any of that. Sounds like you're a very healthy, respectful partner. I wish you much healing on your journey. And, of course, much love. :)