Very well said. I love men, and I absolutely want a loving, healthy life partnership with one... and probably also kids with him too. But I'm not desperate enough for these things (at least not right now) to go searching avidly for someone to have these things with. Even being 38 years old. My life is content enough, and my goals are meaningful enough, that I simply see (way) more value in focusing on these things than investing time and money into, and incurring a literal safety risk for, meetings with strangers.