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The Day for Twin Flames
Not your typical soulmates — but also not what you might assume
Once upon a time, I was something of a New Age “Dear Abby.” For a couple of years, I ran a blog that drew a lot of questions about twin flames. Not exactly where I saw myself going as a writer (which is part of the reason why I later abandoned that blog), but it was fascinating for a time to hear from readers about their relationship scenarios, spiritual views, and self-beliefs. Because the “twin flame” idea is way more than just a “soulmates” notion; it’s about a soul connection so profound that it inspires, very blatantly, a “return to self.” Hence, people who are into the twin flame idea are also quite often deeply committed to personal growth. The problem is, a lot of codependency-flavored ideas have gotten attached to the twin flame concept too. So that’s what I want to talk about today.
Why today? It’s 11–11. This date has various significances. It’s Armistice Day, for one — yay for peace! (Or, at least, an attempt at peace...) It’s also “Singles Day,” a shopping holiday with its roots in China… And for the New Age community, 11–11 is associated with twin flames. The logic is thus:
Given the fact that we often write the number “1” as a simple vertical line, 11–11 (or 11:11) is an exact mirror image of itself, with neither side taking up more…
