That's a good point, and it reminds me of a lot of men's knee-jerk aversion to the word "feminism," when really, true feminism is about egalitarianism. Hopefully the men who need the message, receive the message at some point or another, in whatever way they'll be most receptive. And yes, the patriarchy conditions men to chide each other for being vulnerable, while there are some psychologically unhealthy women who look down on it also. Hopefully the guys who encounter those women realize that those women are the problem and simply move on to partners with healthier relating styles! :)