Thanks for sharing that story with me, Ben. I have mixed feelings about the conclusions the author reached, although of course she is entitled to feel however she feels. In general, I'd say that it feels nice to receive compliments from men when those compliments are 1) tasteful, 2) delivered purely as a compliment, rather than as a way to fish for my number or a promise of time spent, and 3) not followed by predatory actions. For instance, an older man with his son one time stopped me on my way into a department store just to say that he thought I was very beautiful, ask my age and nationality, and wish me a good day — that was all. It felt really good to hear that and especially for it to have been delivered with no strings attached. If more men complimented women and NOT turn it into a come-on, in any way, then I think more women would be receptive. But the last man to approach me literally told me "I paid you a compliment" and that this was why he thought it was clear that he was interested in going on a date. Things don't work that way.

As for if you actually are interested in the woman, I still think the safest approach is to maintain a respectful distance in your initial meeting, and then ONLY as you're walking away (so it's clear you're not trying to pester her) or later when she's reached out to you, you can say something complimentary about her appearance. But it's not so advisable to lead with this.

Sorry for the novel, lol. I didn't realize I had so many thoughts on this. But does that make sense?