Thank you, Megan, the men I’ve been involved with since then have been far kinder to me. (And yes, I frequently got blamed, and not only did he tend to refuse any blame, but he also insisted that I was wrong to attempt to defend myself verbally whenever he launched an attack. Always a bad sign: people who only want to unload their frustrations on you, but don’t want to allow you to explain your own side of things. In other words, people who just want to cut you down and demand that YOU meet them where THEY are, but don’t care to listen or put in any effort to see eye to eye.)