Thank you for writing this, Crystal. I have had so many disagreements with men about these things in comment sections on articles where male authors encourage unhealthy behaviors (that are inclined, in fact, to repel women), as well as on articles where female authors encourage healthy behaviors to help men understand what we actually want. Weirdly, a lot of male readers seem seem angry at the reassurance that they deserve to be loved for their authentic selves.... as well as angry at many of the other wise insights along the lines of what's written here. But the information is so, so, so important for them to absorb and accept. I truly hope that the people who need this info hear it enough times that they take it to heart. Thank you for fighting the good 'fight' [which, indeed, need not be a fight at all ;) ]. 💜