Thank you for sharing this. One of my life's most powerful lessons was also about codependency, but from the opposite (and admittedly quite gendered) side: that of constantly accepting the role of emotional caretaker. I had to learn how to refuse to be the rock for others (mostly men), rather than learn — as you did — how to stop expecting someone else to be the rock for me. It's fascinating to hear how the other side of the dynamic might heal their own expectations.

I wish you and your wife much happiness!