Thank you, Brad, for fighting the good fight. I've seen it generally accused that articles with "abuse" in the headline on Medium are clickbait, but as someone who wrote a whole master's thesis on abuse in a grad program renowned for its research on relationship quality, it upsets me when people think of this as a trivial sort of issue, or the sort of thing that only a psychologist can "diagnose" (as if "abuse" were a psychiatric diagnosis), or that it's all just drama for clicks. Relationship quality is HUGELY impactful to so many dimensions of life, and if people can't recognize abuse AS abuse, they tend to remain stuck. Everything you've written here is very well expressed. I hope that the people who need to read it, do.