Such an insightful read on what it’s like to be on the receiving end of BPD. You wrote it in a compassionate way, too, without attacking the (most immediate) sufferers of the disorder itself. I’m lucky not to have been in an abusive relationship for over a decade (and I don’t know exactly what my then-partner’s diagnosis would have been), but I’ve known a lot of people who exhibit BPD traits over the years, and it took me a very long time to realize I NEEDED to stop taking their lash-outs personally. I often wonder how many abusive people actually live with this diagnosis and don’t even realize it. If only it were more well-known and less stigmatized, so that they could feel empowered and unashamed about accessing help. Thank you, on behalf of all abuse survivors, for writing this.