Real Reasons I Lost Interest in Guys Who Had a Chance

A handful of ways (not) to screw it up when she’s already attracted

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Ever wonder why a woman pulled back when you could’ve sworn she was interested? Well, I’m here with some answers. Let’s demystify this together.

If any of the following stories sound like something you’ve done? Great!… because now that you’re aware of a bad habit, you can fix it.

If not? Then you can breathe a sigh of relief and just remind yourself that love is also largely a matter of luck — and you’re not doing something “wrong” to block that luck from coming your way.

Watch, ponder, learn.

1. The obvious red flags — lack of basic decency

Let’s start at the lowest bar. I’ve been out with guys who suddenly said racist or misogynist things (including slut-shaming other women), and even one who tried to tell me that a recent, tragic, deadly accident wasn’t sad. I’ve also heard otherwise-attractive guys make mean remarks about children. And dishonesty? Yeah, that’s a solid no from me — even if I have feelings involved.

If you can’t consistently be tolerant, kind, and honest, you’ll repel anyone who lives by said values: in other words, the best partners. So if…