Love this, Elle. I literally just made a post yesterday on Instagram about my must-haves in a partner. "Playfulness" (which I explained as "doesn't take himself or the world too seriously") made the shortlist. I'm not attracted to clown-types — the ones who ham it up to the max because they neeeeeeed attention (*tends to signal insecurity) — but yes, playfulness is so important, and it is ESPECIALLY important in bed. It's nice when a partner has more than just "SERIOUS AND INTENSE" mode.

Great article!