I'm so sorry you can relate regarding the ex, Shannon. That's awful, but I'm glad you're free. My own ex went so far in "attempt(ing) to shame me for displaying any modicum of sexuality" that he rejected me all the time, and it ruined my self-esteem for a while. (Not sure if you'd be interested, but I wrote this essay about it here: https://psiloveyou.xyz/my-abusively-sexless-relationship-1167658ddb5d )

Thank you for your supportive words, and here's to always having the wisdom and the confidence to avoid the red flags. ;)