I’m really sorry to hear that your abusive partner treated you that way. Some of what you say about how he treated you sounds very familiar to me — even though I refrained from including all the details in my story.

As for the other partner who had sexual compatibility issues with you, I’m sorry to hear that he wasn’t interested in seeing a doctor about his difficulty with erection or his low libido, but I’m happy that you had the self-confidence to end the relationship after you realized it was not capable of satisfying you and that he showed no interest pursuing in a different dynamic.

Thank you very much for sharing so much detail about your own experiences because I am sure that reading about what you went through can help to empower others.