If your point is that it's healthy to refrain from "trauma dumping" on someone who is not a mental health professional, Marcus, I do agree with you. There is a difference between trauma dumping and conscious, responsible sharing. (Or trauma dumping and "complaining," to borrow one of your words.) But the fact still remains that a fully healthy relationship involves healthy levels of vulnerability. If you and your wife have been married for 46 years, it sounds like you and she are well-matched in terms of how you both believe a man should behave. That's wonderful! The problem for a lot of the men in the comments section here, by contrast, is that they seem to WANT to share more, but they are masking their real emotions, and thus they keep attracting emotionally closed-off partners — and they wouldn't be complaining here in the comments section if they were actually satisfied with that. For those men — the ones who truly want to be able to share themselves — emotional authenticity is the only way.