Laura Rosell
1 min readDec 4, 2021

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I do think that men would be bothered by being chased doggedly by a woman they didn't want to be chased by. Not necessarily thrilled by it. However, there's generally a (vast) strength differential between most men and women, and therefore the "fear" element of dogged pursuit doesn't necessarily come into play so much for men; I personally think that's the piece they find hard to empathize with.

In that regard, though, I must say that I once had to have The Consent Conversation with a guy who'd reacted badly (i.e., dismissively) when a woman had asked for his help with an overly-aggressive stranger, and when I asked him how he'd feel if a guy kept touching him, he understood how uncomfortable it would be. Because suddenly the assumption of "I will be safe" is no longer so bullet-proof when it's a man involved, and the man doing the thought exercise can suddenly comprehend it. (Fwiw, the conversation literally ended with him trembling and telling me he'd never looked at it that way before, but now he was looking back over all the times he'd dismissed a man's aggressions towards a woman as "harmless" and realized he was wrong.)

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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Laura Rosell
Laura Rosell

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