Hm, weird. Nothing here said that any relationship should offer a guarantee of sex. In fact, I wrote that relationships with a low frequency of sex can be healthy. I also referred to abuse (outside of my own hetero relationship) in gender-neutral terms and shared a bunch of gender-neutral resources to help readers recognize whether they are being abused themselves — regardless of their or their partners’ genders. And as you’ve likely seen, I’ve received comments from male readers and/or readers with wives who say they can relate to this story; proof that readers do understand that this kind of abuse can happen to or be perpetrated by anyone, regardless of gender. Hence, your insinuation that there’s some kind of nefarious gender bias in the telling of my story makes no sense.
And yes — victims (once they realize that they’ve been victimized) do want to heal so that they can feel empowered. How great that you realize this!
Thanks for reading.