Enjoyed this, June. As a kid/adolescent, I didn't feel "like the other girls" and certainly didn't fit in with most of them; indeed, my best female friends from childhood grew up to marry women — and one is also intersex and identifies (sometimes) as nonbinary. Were we wrong for feeling different? No. But the reality is that womanhood is such a diverse experience, and this fact gets lost in all the patriarchal stereotypes. That's why so many girls and women feel like outsiders. Meanwhile, as you astutely point out, it's deeply toxic that men treat being "unlike the other girls/women" as a mark of honor. Thank you for raising attention this.