As I said, Pepe, I appreciated that you understood my story better than Martin, but I still felt the claim that it was at all sexist was out of bounds. I took the time to explain why, because I thought you’d be interested in hearing it, but it sounds like my defending my viewpoint only bothered you instead… and now, apparently, that you somehow construe this as evidence of gender-bias too. *shrug* At the very least, if your intention is to defend a woman against MRAs, I hope you can see how saying that she’s gender-biased is unhelpful.

Perhaps we’re operating on different definitions of the term “gender bias.” The bottom line is this: to say that a female memoirist was biased for making gender-neutral references to a variety of societal influences, simply because she didn’t expressly shine a spotlight on how those phenomena influence men is neither accurate nor fair. And any expectation that she would or should shine a spotlight on men — and that she’s somehow biased if she doesn’t — is sexist. You don’t have to agree. But I stand by that.

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