Published in P.S. I Love You·PinnedMember-onlyThe Best Reason a Guy Ever Gave for Why I Should Sleep With HimOne of the most empowering messages of my life was actually an attempt to seduce me. — At the height of my quarterlife crisis, I was living in Shanghai, at a mouse-and-roach infested hostel, next to one of the most fetid wet markets I’ve ever smelled in my life. We’re talking offal and fish guts perennially rotting in the street outside my door. I was broke. Technically…Relationships7 min readRelationships7 min read
Published in Sexography·Sep 3, 2022Member-onlyThese Are the Sex Mistakes That Repel WomenLuckily good sex is far more about personality than technique! — As someone who writes a lot about relationships, I occasionally aim to shed light on how women decide which men to keep and which ones to reject. Usually, these articles focus wholly on personality traits, and for good reason: personality is paramount. But you know what most “How Not to…Feminism10 min readFeminism10 min read
Published in The Casual Mystic·Aug 30, 2022Member-only10 Ways Twin Flame Connections Feel DivineHere’s what people mean when they describe this love in almost-religious terms — People talk about twin flame love like it’s the holy grail of heart-and-soul connections. I don’t really view it that way. Love itself is the essence of the divine. All relationships play a sacred role in the journey of our souls. …Love9 min readLove9 min read
Aug 26, 2022Member-onlyI Crossed an Ocean to Be With My Dying CatIt sounds rash and extreme, but I’ll never regret going to transatlantic lengths to be with my pet in her dying days. — In June, my mom called with news: “We haven’t wanted to worry you, so we didn’t say anything at first… but your cat’s been limping since the other day. We think she’s fine. She probably just snagged one of her claws while jumping and twisted her knee. …Love11 min readLove11 min read
Published in The Casual Mystic·Aug 21, 2022Member-onlyAre Twin Flames Trauma-Bonded?And is the runner/chaser dynamic inevitable? — Most people don’t know this about me, but a decade ago, I became a twin flame blogger by accident. Those years of contemplating and answering readers’ questions about divine love were some of the most meaningful and enriching of my life. But even though I rarely write about twin flames…Relationships9 min readRelationships9 min read
Jun 20, 2022Member-onlyHow to Reconcile With an Old FlameOnce upon a time, you screwed up. Want another chance? Here’s how to fix things. — Some people believe in letting bygones be bygones. But if you believe humans are dynamic beings who grow and change, it makes sense that a connection that didn’t work in the past might succeed in the future. I know real-life couples with just that story, including an aunt and uncle…Relationships8 min readRelationships8 min read
May 31, 2022Member-only13 Signs That Your Girlfriend Is Actually AbusiveWhy it can be hard for men to recognize this, how to spot the signs, and what to do — If there’s any “silver lining” to the court case playing out right now between Amber Heard and Johnny Depp, it’s that they’re sparking much-needed cultural conversations about the fact that, yes, men can be abused, and women can be abusive. I’m not here to weigh in on the celebrity couple…Relationships12 min readRelationships12 min read
Published in The Casual Mystic·Apr 10, 2022Member-onlyDon’t Wait for Destiny. Tell It Where to Meet You.Sometimes, while we’re waiting for a sign, life’s waiting for us to decide. — Six years ago, I was stuck. Hard. For the previous two-and-a-half years, I’d tried out some international moves, never ultimately wrangling the job prospects, visas, income, or general fulfillment I’d been aiming for. …Self7 min readSelf7 min read
Apr 3, 2022Member-onlyHere’s How to Trust in Love Again After AbuseThe secret? It’s not actually about trusting love at all. — A couple weeks ago, a friend asked me a profound question about relationships. He’d been enamored for years of a guy who was stringing him along, playing mindgames, and just generally going out of his way to make him feel worthless… only then to make threats whenever my heartbroken friend…Relationships7 min readRelationships7 min read
Published in The Casual Mystic·Mar 19, 2022Member-onlyThe Trippiest Love I Ever Fell IntoMy muse is a guy I slept with once, and I still don’t know how I should feel about that. — Where do you start a non-linear story? How do you set the scene for the unseen? Does it begin when you’re 23, and the “ghost” starts coming to your room, filling the space with the warm spice of his cologne, and something in your gut tells you this is actually…Relationships10 min readRelationships10 min read
